My coaching is action and results oriented. I understand the value of living on the growing edge of the comfort zone. I’m most effective with people who have a growth mindset and are willing to put in the work. With me, we’ll not only get to the center of what’s stopping you, but also have a plan of action to get you to where you want to be!
8 years of Coach Training and Experience have honed my listening so I can very quickly identify what your key struggle is, and the action needed to transform it. I communicate clearly and honestly, and deliver it with compassion and empathy. I will uncover what’s really happening, so you can move forward with true confidence and self-assuredness.
5 years of classroom teaching experience means my sessions and workshops are participant-focused, designed to engage (this means they’re fun!), and are structured effectively to teach new skills and bring about new insights.
5 years organizing Dance Events: I put on weekend-long dance workshops that included auditions, workshops, competitions, DJs, and live bands, and managed teams of 75+ volunteers to create events attended by 600+ dancers. I honed my skills in large-scale communication, teamwork, management, and accountability.
Juris Doctor (law degree) permanently shifted the way I think, and gives me a distinct perspective on morality, responsibility, negotiations, and how to navigate conflict.
Championship-Winning Kungfu Practitioner (2005 Beijing Traditional Kungfu Competition, 1st Place, Shaolin Fist) is the basis for my understanding of Chinese philosophies: Buddhism, Taoism, Chinese pressure points and meridian lines. It also gives me a physical/embodied understanding of the concepts of balance, rest, intention, acceptance, and many more concepts required to maintain a healthy, sustainable life.
3 years as a Kungfu Instructor mainly for preschoolers (including 12 units of Early Childhood Education) taught me the importance of having clear expectations, consistent structure, and lots of positive reinforcement.
BA Linguistics means I understand the importance of language and the difference it makes on the human mind in terms of psychology, cognitive development, and sociology (how we interact with each other).
My Journey Into Coaching
Due to my success and positive outlook, people are often surprised by my less-than-ideal upbringing: my parents got divorced when I was five, I grew up in a physically- and emotionally- abusive household, and I was ostracized at school because of my race. My sister fell into addiction and an abusive relationship, and my father passed away before I had the chance to build an adult relationship with him.
My path to self-awareness and self-development began in the aftermath of my divorce. I set off on an intense introspection of who I am and what I want, first collecting books on philosophy, psychology, and religion, and then registering for self-development courses & programs. I focused on communication, interpersonal relationships, and personal responsibility. Through this training, I discovered how essential and fundamental these skills are, and the joy it brings me when I cause that illumination in someone else.
My training has allowed me to:
- Finally have a fully loving, supportive, and authentic relationship with my mother after 35 years of frustration and blame, including ex-communicating her for 2 years.
- Turn around his relationship with his sister, who was an addict in an abusive relationship. She is now sober and out of that relationship.
- Meet a life partner that is the most loving, supportive, and communicative person I’ve ever met.
In addition to my coach training, I also bring 8 years’ experience as a teacher, including being a certified classroom teacher and qualified preschool instructor (in the State of California).
Now it is time to share these skills with the rest of the world. My specialty is Relationship Coaching for Polyamorous people because of:
- My coach training in empowering people to have the lives they want,
- My passion for loving and healthy relationships and communication, and
- My personal experience with polyamory and ethical non-monogamy.
My Story Into Polyamory
The end of my marriage sent me into a whirlwind of questioning my identity, and then ultimately choosing what I wanted for myself. That’s when I read The Ethical Slut, which I later discovered is standard reading for anyone considering polyamory. Its core ideas made sense to me, so I decided to dive in.
My first experience in polyamory was a disaster full of crossed communications and unexpected bouts of jealousy. In the following years, I explored all different polyamorous dynamics, ranging from Strict Hierarchical Polyamory, to Relationship Anarchy read “What is Ethical Non-Monogamy?” for some definitions, and have settled on what works best for me. Just like any exploration, it will always be open to modification.
I have definitely had my fair share of good times and bad. I will use my knowledge and experience to help you distinguish which relationship style best suits you. For some, monogamy is the best choice. There are numerous skills that are finely developed in just the exploration of polyamory that are useful in all relationships.
The exploration of polyamory can be the access to gain the skills to live the life you have always wanted. Let me show you how.